A contact arrangement specifies how often and when a child is with each of the parents. This can be included in a parenting plan or determined by the court, for example via the Rechtbank Midden-Nederland in Utrecht.
Types of Contact Arrangements
| Type of Arrangement | Time Division | Practical Example |
|---|---|---|
| Co-parenting | 50/50 | One week with one parent, one week with the other |
| Extended contact | 40/60 | Three days per week plus half of the holidays |
| Weekend division | 30/70 | Every other weekend plus one weekday evening |
| Limited contact | 15/85 | Only every other weekend, no weekdays |
Important Aspects of a Contact Arrangement
- Standard contact: Weekly schedule, who has the child on which days
- School holidays: How these periods are divided
- Special days: Think of Christmas, Easter, and birthdays
- Transport: Who is responsible for pick-up and drop-off
- Interim contact: Options for calling or video contact
Criteria for Establishing
When creating a contact arrangement, account is taken of:
- The age and specific wishes of the child
- School times and extracurricular activities
- Work schedules of both parents
- Travel time between residences
- The child's preference, especially for older children
- The bond with both parents
Adjusting the Arrangement
Changing a contact arrangement is possible when:
- Both parents agree (via an amended parenting plan)
- There are changed circumstances, such as a move
- The child grows older and develops different needs
- The current arrangement proves impractical
What to Do in Case of Conflicts
If there is no agreement on the contact arrangement:
- First try to find a solution together through an open conversation
- Consider mediation by a mediator, for example via the Juridisch Loket Utrecht at Catharijnesingel 55
- Present the case to the judge at the Rechtbank Midden-Nederland, Vrouwe Justitiaplein 1
Is it mandatory to put a contact arrangement in writing?
It is strongly recommended to record agreements in a parenting plan. This prevents misunderstandings and provides certainty. In case of divorce, such a plan is even legally required.Can my child decide on the contact themselves?
No, a child has no decision-making authority over the arrangement. However, the child's opinion is taken into consideration, especially for older children. Ultimately, the parents or the judge decide.What if the contact arrangement is not followed?
If the other parent does not comply with the agreements, you can ask the court for enforcement. Possible consequences include a fine or adjustment of the child's residence.Frequently Asked Questions about Contact Arrangements in Utrecht
How do I draw up an arrangement if my ex-partner and I cannot agree?If consultation does not help, start with a mediator. If that does not work, the Rechtbank Midden-Nederland can make a decision. The child's best interests, such as school and emotional bonds, are central. Provide relevant information (e.g., schedules) and consider help from the Juridisch Loket Utrecht. My child does not want to go to the other parent. What now?
Listen to your child's objections, but do not force anything. Consult with the other parent for a possible adjustment. In case of persistent issues, a mediator can help, or the judge can revise the arrangement. For older children, their opinion carries more weight. Can I adjust the arrangement for a move within Utrecht?
Yes, a move justifies a review. Discuss this in time with the other parent. In case of disagreement, the judge can help. Pay attention to the impact on the child, such as travel time and social contacts. What does legal assistance for a contact arrangement cost?
Mediators often charge €100-€150 per hour for an average of 3-5 sessions. Lawyers cost €150-€300 per hour. For low income, subsidized assistance is possible via the Juridisch Loket Utrecht. Also inquire about free mediation via the municipality of Utrecht or your insurance. How do I divide holidays and public holidays?
These are often divided alternately between parents. Make clear agreements about this in the parenting plan to avoid conflicts.