Mediation offers a constructive way to make arrangements for your divorce together with an impartial mediator. The process is often more efficient, affordable, and less stressful than going to court.
What does divorce mediation entail?
During divorce mediation, a neutral mediator supports you and your partner in making joint arrangements. The mediator does not make decisions but facilitates the conversation so that both parties are heard.
Why choose mediation?
| Feature | Mediation | Court procedure |
|---|---|---|
| Duration | 2-4 months | 6-12 months |
| Costs | € 1,500 - € 3,000 | € 3,000 - € 10,000+ |
| Approach | Constructive cooperation | Conflictual |
| Control | With the partners themselves | With the court |
| Relationship after divorce | Often more positive | Frequently strained |
When is mediation a good choice?
Suitable for mediation:
- Both parties are willing to negotiate
- Communication is still somewhat possible
- No violence or significant power imbalance
Less suitable:
- Deep conflicts or distrust
- Presence of domestic violence or manipulation
- Hidden financial matters or fraud
Steps in the mediation process
- First meeting: Introduction and explanation of the process
- Inventory: Mapping out finances, income, and children
- Discussion: Addressing all relevant topics
- Documentation: Drafting a settlement agreement and parenting plan if applicable
- Finalization: A lawyer submits the joint divorce petition to the court
Choose a registered MfN mediator
It is recommended to choose a mediator registered with the Mediatorsfederatie Nederland (MfN). These professionals meet strict quality standards and adhere to an ethical code of conduct.
Is a lawyer still needed in mediation?
Although the mediator drafts the settlement agreement, a lawyer is required to file the divorce petition with the court. Often, the mediator collaborates with a lawyer, or both parties engage their own lawyer to review the arrangements.What are the costs of mediation in Utrecht?
A mediator typically charges between €150 and €250 per hour. The total process costs on average €1,500 to €3,000, including drafting documents. These costs are often shared between partners. With a low income, you may be eligible for subsidized legal aid through the Juridisch Loket Utrecht.What happens if mediation does not work?
If mediation does not yield results, you can still engage a lawyer for a court procedure. Everything discussed during mediation remains confidential and cannot be used in court proceedings.Practical information for Utrecht
For mediation or legal questions, you can go to the Juridisch Loket Utrecht at Catharijnesingel 55. Divorce petitions are handled by the District Court of Midden-Nederland, located at Vrouwe Justitiaplein 1.
Frequently asked questions about mediation in Utrecht
What is mediation in a divorce?It is a process in which a neutral mediator helps to find solutions together. What are the benefits?
It is faster, more affordable, and causes less tension. Is mediation suitable for us?
Yes, if both parties are open to negotiation and cooperation. What does mediation produce?
A divorce settlement agreement with all the made arrangements. What about the costs?
These are often shared and are usually lower than in a lawyer-led case.
In short
Mediation is a joint way to divorce with the guidance of a mediator.Key points
- More efficient process
- Lower costs